Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Am I Christ's Valentine?

This is something I've been thinking about lately, and I finally decided to blog about it. 
As you can see by yesterday's post, I definitely use Valentine's as a day to remember how much Christ loves me...

but as someone who does not have a "Valentine," I really don't see Him as taking the place of the guy I don't have (yet, LOL). 

The way I see it, love between a man and a woman is meant to be a picture
of the love between God and Israel, between Christ and His church
not of the love between Christ and us as individuals
If there is a verse in the Bible that contradicts this, please let me know, but I have not been able to find one. 
God is known as a Father to the fatherless... as a Defender of the widows - but not as a Husband of the widows!
He is called our Father many times... with Christ called the first-born of many brethren. We are not in-laws to God, but His beloved adopted children. 

Something that bothers me about viewing Christ this way is how many times I see people talking about being
content for Christ to be those things, until He brings my Prince into my life.
See, I don't want my relationship with God taking a sudden second place when I get married. 
(Can you imagine the mess my marriage would be?) 
I want it to grow only stronger and deeper and better, as I join my life to another's, and together we make up the Church. If Christ is your all only before your Prince comes... what is He afterwards? 
A man is supposed to love his wife as Christ loves the church... not as Christ loves his wife. Who Christ is to me should not depend on who else I have in my life. He does not change, nor does His love for me.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married - I think sometimes we get the false idea that if we are where we should be spiritually, then we will basically not care. We'll be fine if we get married, fine if we don't; if people close to us die, we'll know it is God's will and so we won't sorrow; basically, whatever happens will be okay because we will be so trusting God that it won't bother us. 
Jesus wept when Lazarus died - and that was knowing He was going to bring him back to life in a couple of minutes! 
We should be able to learn to be content in whatsoever state we are in... but  I don't think that means we are supposed to banish all desires and emotions and not want something He created us to want - marriage.

Looking at it that way, simply sticking Christ in the place of the person I want to marry and calling Him my Valentine does not work. He is many things to me, Savior, Leader, Friend... but not my Husband.   

Does this makes sense? I should probably have spent more time on it, but it's already after midnight on Sunday, so time's up. :)

Thoughts, anyone? 

5 thoughts shared:

Angel said...


Excellent post. I've been doing some research on this subject myself. You've hit what I've been thinking, and praying about, on the nail.

My main point in this topic is to truly be content in the station of life where you are at. No, it does not mean you should not have the desire to marry, because GOD created male and female to be companions for each other, and put that desire into each of our hearts (unless you have the gift of singleness). It's only natural. We just need to keep in our minds, Christ is to be first and foremost in our lives, whether we are single, or in marriage.

Thanks for this post. And yes, it did make sense. :)

Have a wonderful day!

Vicki said...

Thank you for posting this, Katherine; I agree with you. I'd like to do a post on this myself sometime.

Love in Christ,

Katherine Sophia said...

Thank you, Angel! I'm glad it made sense... you said exactly what I was trying to: Christ is to be first and foremost in our lives, whether single or married. He should not be place-holding for someone else. :)

I'd love to see a post from you on this, Vicki! I'm glad you liked mine. :)

Erika said...

I definitely agree with your spirit and with your point - and our relationship with Christ should be rich, deep, and sweet regardless of whether we are married or single - but this passage in Isaiah 54:4-5 came to mind:

Fear not; for thou shalt not be ashamed: neither be thou confounded; for thou shalt not be put to shame: for thou shalt forget the shame of thy youth, and shalt not remember the reproach of thy widowhood any more. For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.

Ezekiel 16 and Hosea 2 both talk about how God has entered into a covenant relationship with us personally and made us His own. (See also Jeremiah 31:32.) It seems clear that God is talking about His people personally - not merely as a "church," since the "church" as we know it did not exist yet. Also Jeremiah 3:14:

Turn, O backsliding children, saith the LORD; for I am married unto you.

God is also our Father; that does not mean He takes the place in our lives of our earthly father. God is our Teacher; that does not mean that we do not have other teachers as well. He is our King and Lawgiver, but that does not mean we have no other "kings" and lawgivers (government leaders). He is our Friend, but that does not mean we cannot have any other friends. Similarly, just because "Your Maker is your Husband," that does not mean that the earthly marriage relationship will change at all. If anything, it makes it sweeter and richer.

Thank you for your thoughts. Again, I agree with the point of your post; I just wanted to point out the Scripture passages. As we agree, despite differences in terminology or technicalities, we come back to the foundational fact that deep, intimate, personal relationship with Him is what life is about. God bless you, Katherine Sophia!

Katherine Sophia said...

Thank you, Erika! I really appreciate readers who take the time to check what I’m saying… especially when I’m running a little low on sleep. :D It also gave me a chance to look up those verses and think about it some more, which was really good. I guess, for those verses, I was still looking at it as speaking to God's people as a whole, whether or not the church itself was around (O backsliding children...), and not to specific individuals, but either way - that foundational fact you ended with is what matters. :)
I hope everything is going well with you so far this year! Have a lovely week!


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